Have you forgiven your father?  Do you still see him?

I have completely and totally forgiven my father and there is not a single cell in my body that hates him anymore.  Because he is unrepentant, I chose not to be in a relationship with him. Forgiveness and reconciliation are two separate things.  I will no longer carry his shame or hide his dirty secret.  I walk in forgiveness with my father but I do not see him because the relationship is toxic to me.